The Road Home

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{click here to watch the full film}

The other night, I watched a short film made by a TCK and written about a TCK, called “The Road Home.” Lizzy was the one who first found it through this review from Denizen  and we both thought the film was beautiful and thought-provoking. Since it was a short (only about 25 minutes), it was more of a discussion opener than a deep delve into the TCK psyche.  The main character is a British-Indian boy who struggles with accepting both of his cultures. It made us wonder if it’s possible to only live in one culture, to flip the switch between two worlds. I know that my brother has always been able to do that – speaking flawlessly in Italian to following the latest American trends – but is it positive? Is it possible to ignore and shut out the influence part of your life has had on you? The film sought to loosely answer this question, which we had a great time discussing over Skype.

Lizzy: In the film, the line my heart responded most to was the free-flowing, French backpacker-hippie’s announcement to the boy: “You can be both.” Pico, a British kid with an Indian appearance, considered himself exclusively British. He fought to make everyone else believe he wasn’t Indian and eventually developed doubts himself. For me, “The Road Home” brought up the question of choice. Can I choose how much Chinese and how much American is inside me? Can I choose just one or the other? Do I already try to? I think I try to have a lot of control over the parts of my identity as they make up the whole, measuring and dividing them. I think I often want to choose how much and how little, and I wouldn’t be surprised if other TCKs compartmentalized the effects their countries have had on them in the same way.

In sum, we came up with three major takeaways:

1. It’s ok to be angry when you feel frustrated and confused with your TCK story. 2. You can’t always just choose one culture to live in. 3. Live in the present; live where you are.

I hope a full-length film is developed from this – I’d love to see more TCK themes explored against the sweeping backdrop of rural India. We recommend you check out the film by clicking the link!

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Guest Posting

Happy Friday! Today, I’m guest posting over on “Travel Lite,” an awesome new blog for MKs…

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As of now, I’ve been in college for roughly a month. Before college, I knew what it meant to be a TCK. I had been “schooled,” even, to know how I was supposed to feel; I knew what I should struggle with, what I should excel at. But coming to college changed that.

I have met numerous TCKs in the past month and I’m never sure what to say. One girl told me she grew up in Germany and I wanted to yell, “Me too!” and throw my arms around her and be best friends forever. The problem is, I didn’t grow up in Germany – I just understood all that came with that simple statement. When I tried to explain my life in Italy and that I got it, she didn’t seem to care.

That’s what it’s been like with a lot of the TCKs I’ve met. In my mind, we’re supposed to have a stronger-than-glue instantaneous bond, but they didn’t seem to get the memo. This became most apparent to me when a girl I’d been spending a lot of time with told me she was born and raised overseas. I excitedly told her that I was a TCK too and she gave me a blank stare. I explained to her what the term meant and she didn’t believe me. Let me repeat that. SHE DIDN’T BELIEVE ME. She thought I had made the term up! I gave her example after example of ministries and websites and magazines that reached out to people like us and she asked this simple question: why do we need to be reached out to? And you know what? I didn’t have an answer.

Read the rest over on Travel Lite!

Stuck

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I love when a verse or a quote really gets stuck in my heart. When encouraging truths are on loop in my head, the rest of me is so much more at peace. I remember the first time I memorized scripture for myself (and not for candy in sunday school), it was the verse “I will cast my burdens on the Lord and He will sustain me.” That was repeated constantly in times of trial.

Recently, this phrase has been played again and again:

I am a child of God. Nothing more. Nothing less. And nothing else matters. 

I love that. It was from a guest preacher’s sermon on Mother’s Day this year. He was talking about giving ourselves grace and not comparing ourselves with those around us. I think everyone needs to be reminded of those two things once in a while every day.

So if you’re in need of some grace today (who isn’t?), listen: you are a child of God. Nothing more. Nothing less. And nothing else matters.

Click Click Click: Four Links of Encouragement #4

Happy Wednesday! Some articles I’ve found and loved in the past few weeks…

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A Time to Dance by Ashley Peterson…”It’s impossible for me to think about dancing without thinking about Ian. When we were little, my Mom and Dad used to have us kids [at the time, just Ian, Stephen and I] clean up the kitchen after dinner. This inevitably took worlds more time than would have otherwise been necessary, because somewhere between clearing and rinsing, one of us would begin to sing.” Read the rest here. Ashley recently lost her brother Ian to cancer just days before her wedding. She wrote this amazing blog post in between those events.

It’s Okay to Be Messy by Hannah Nicole…“I’m guilty of wearing masks. Specifically, the lovely, I’ve got it all figured out. It’s easier to slap on a smile, put up a pretty photo, write a few words, and be done. Easy to blog a session or write about what is good, instead of what is hard. Easy to put on a face and skim the surface instead of being real and honest and raw. Read the rest here

Thursday Q&A // Journaling by Sarah from Ampersand Photography…“My biggest motivation for consistency is a core belief that God is actively at work in my life. I don’t think I’m anyone remarkable, so I don’t necessarily feel that I need to write things down because I’m worth remembering— but I do believe that God’s work in me is worth recording. He is SO kind, and faithful, and tender, and generous to His children, and I need to remind myself of this on a regular basis. Writing helps me remember.” Read the rest here

Subarus, Sex, and Porn Stars by Mike Donehey…“Becoming a father has made me a softy. I mean, I was a crier even before I had kids, but now? Dang. I was choking up watching a Subaru commercial last night. A Subaru commercial?! Seriously? I know, I know. My man point stock is crashing with every key stroke, but before you condemn my whimpering, have you seen this one?” Read the rest here. Funny thing is, I saw the same commercial last night and turned to my dad and said, “That’s so lame!” Interesting what different perspectives look like.

What have you been reading?

A Thought to Start Your Week // To Whom You Belong

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“So then you are no longer strangers and aliens,  but you are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God, built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus himself being the cornerstone,  in whom the whole structure, being joined together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord. In him you also are being built together into a dwelling place for God by the Spirit.”

-Ephesians 2:19-22

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